Relationship expert has tips to start dating again after a divorce
Moving on after a divorce can be challenging, but relationship expert Dr. Ramani has tips to help you dip your toes back into the dating pool.
Teddi Mellencamp and ex Edwin Arroyave aren’t legally exes just yet. The pair hit pause on their divorce and are still living together while she’s getting treatment for stage 4 melanoma.
“We’re not a couple, but we are still very close friends,” Mellencamp says, “and I think it was an effortless decision for him to make sure that he was there for me and the kids when this happened.” Mellencamp shares four kids with Arroyave: Slate, 12, Cruz, 10, and Dove, 5, plus stepdaughter Bella.
“Everybody wants everything to be so black and white, but sometimes it isn’t exactly that,” she adds. “It’s like, OK, we’re all going to be there for this. Yes, we were nesting. Now this is how it’s going to work. This night is going to be your night. This is going to be mine.” She and Arroyave have been more fluid with their schedules, especially as doctors told her she shouldn’t feel immense stress during this time. What could cause stress? Going to court and getting divorced.
She’s in a state of appreciation for everyone in her life, including father John Mellencamp, but is focused on making time for her kids. What’s the No. 1 thing they want her do to on a given week? She tries to work that into her schedule, and listens to her body if she’s not up for it.
That doesn’t mean her kids totally understand what’s going on, even though she’s spoken to them about it. Cruz, for example, wondered if she might be contagious. And Dove just wants to get a matching haircut, she laughs.
Mellencamp’s frightening diagnosis, though, hasn’t stopped her resolve. She’s taking it day by day. “I’m feeling positive, but I also would say that my mood and my overall energy level shifts by the hour,” she says.
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